Sensible factors, please

I recently read this article about groom hunting, in Deccan Herald. Take a quick read for a  chuckle - http://www.deccanherald.com/content/121977/groom-hunting-unusual-place.html 

Based on my observation, most of the Indian society has a peculiar set of parameters to gauge a person. When it comes to looking for brides and grooms, it gets even stranger. Let me list the factors they consider.

For the groom-to-be:

Earns lots (read obese pay package)/ is in a big "position" ;
his family is filthy-rich;

his father/brother/brother-in-law/somehow-related-somebody is a big guy somewhere (I really don’t understand how that makes the guy suitable) 

For the bride-to-be:

Her horoscope should be compatible with that of the guy;

she should be fair, pretty;

right height (few inches lesser than her prospective husband);

must know to cook well and do all the household chores.

Is this all that takes to decide on something as huge and important as marriage?

No wonder we have so many unhappy marriages in our country. Many opt for divorce while many suffer in silence. It is really sad that a majority of our society thinks this mediocre way. When will this change? 

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Current Song:

 Ambar by Raghu Dixit

"sach much kya hai tu duniya mein?..."

The Feel-Good People

Dad worked at a different city while I was studying in the Pre-University. After returning home exhausted from my classes, calling Dad would re-energize me in almost no time. To the frightening entrance tests, the terrorizing college Principal who redefined irrationality, weird peers, or any crisis of a teenager, I could just say, “My dad’s with me”.


By the time I joined an engineering course, Dad returned to Bangalore. Whatever the problem; of any magnitude, would seem very much manageable after a small talk with Dad. He never tried to solve them for me, or gave directions toward a solution. We'd discuss about anything and everything that was not related to my cause-of-concern. Still, I could get through the tough situation successfully after our talk. He stands first in my small list of truly feel-good people.

My brother, Mom, few close friends back home figure in the list (not in that order). That’s the only thing I am missing here in a foreign country.

Nevertheless, I have found a couple of such people here. One of them is my madly-in-love roomie who is always lively; truly follows what her heart says; cares a damn when it is absolutely necessary to do so.

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We meet lot of people, become friends with them; have a long list of friends on Facebook; we may be very outgoing (I am not :-) ). But, I need a small clique of people that match my wavelength.

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Read this line in a newspaper a couple of days ago - Proximity with peers does not equal affinity. Loved it.

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Current Song:

“Oh Shanti” from the Tamil movie Vaaranam Ayiram. This song is playing on the “Repeat 1 Song” mode on my player since I do not know how many days!

Yet to learn the meaning of the lyrics…